Pressure around marriage and engagement: what do you want?

When, whom, how big? When everyone has expectations about your marriage, yours get lost. Questions to reflect on and where coaching can help.

Love and relationships

When will you marry, whom, how big will the celebration be, what needs to be in place? Many people have expectations, and yours easily get lost among them.

How it can show up

The question of when you will marry comes up at every family gathering.
There are expectations about the celebration, the home or money that overwhelm you.
Your own ideas hardly appear in the plans.
You feel torn between your partner and your family.

Questions for you

There are no right answers. Take the question that stays with you.

What do you want yourself when you think about marriage and timing?
Which expectation matters to you, and which do you only accept out of duty?
What have you already decided together as a couple?
How could you explain your view to your family?

Where coaching can help

Coaching can help with your own decision: what do you want, at what pace, and how do you talk about it with your family and partner?

When other help fits better

If expectations turn into coercion, your safety comes first. See the topic on forced marriage and the places to turn to listed there.

If it is too much right now

Coaching is not psychotherapy and not a crisis service. If you are in danger or thinking about harming yourself, contact the emergency services where you are right away, or a crisis service near you.

Want to talk it through?

In a free 20-minute intro call we look at whether coaching is the right way to work on this for you. If it is not, I will tell you so.

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