Fear of commitment: when anything binding makes you pull back

As soon as a relationship, job or decision becomes binding, you want out? How fear of commitment shows up, questions to reflect on and what coaching offers.

Love and relationships

As soon as a relationship, a job or a decision becomes binding, you want to pull back. Freedom feels safer than commitment.

How it can show up

As soon as a relationship gets serious, you look for reasons to end it.
You keep putting off long-term decisions, at work too.
Committing feels like a loss of freedom.
Later you sometimes regret not having stayed.

Questions for you

There are no right answers. Take the question that stays with you.

What exactly do you fear when you commit?
Which commitment in your life feels good, and why?
What would be a small step of commitment you could try?
What would freedom within a committed relationship look like for you?

Where coaching can help

Coaching can help you find out what exactly worries you about committing and make decisions step by step rather than all or nothing.

When other help fits better

If the fear of closeness is linked to earlier hurts or relationships keep failing painfully, working with a psychotherapist can help.

If it is too much right now

Coaching is not psychotherapy and not a crisis service. If you are in danger or thinking about harming yourself, contact the emergency services where you are right away, or a crisis service near you.

Want to talk it through?

In a free 20-minute intro call we look at whether coaching is the right way to work on this for you. If it is not, I will tell you so.

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