Is therapy a weakness? Stigma and the way to getting help

In many families therapy is seen as weakness or shame. Where this stigma comes from, questions to reflect on and how to take the first step anyway.

Society and culture

In many families and cultures, psychotherapy is seen as weakness or shame. So people who need help often seek it late or not at all.

How it can show up

In your family, emotional problems are not talked about.
You fear being seen as weak or crazy if you seek help.
You wait a long time before admitting that you can't manage alone.
You don't know where you would even start.

Questions for you

There are no right answers. Take the question that stays with you.

What would you think if a friend told you they were in therapy?
Which worry keeps you from seeking help most?
Who actually needs to know if you get support?
What would be the smallest first step, for example a talk with your doctor?

What coaching can do

Coaching is no substitute for psychotherapy and should never be the more comfortable choice when therapy is what is needed. I say so openly when a concern belongs there.

When other help fits better

Starting psychotherapy is a sign of responsibility, not weakness. Good first points of contact are your doctor, psychological counselling services or your university's counselling service. Conversations there are confidential.

If it is too much right now

Coaching is not psychotherapy and not a crisis service. If you are in danger or thinking about harming yourself, contact the emergency services where you are right away, or a crisis service near you.