Pressure of tradition: belonging while staying yourself

Your community's expectations about how to live, dress, work or marry limit you? How it shows up, questions to reflect on and where coaching helps.

Society and culture

Your community's expectations about how to live, dress, work or marry limit your choices. You want to belong and still be yourself.

How it can show up

How you dress, whom you meet or what work you do is judged by others.
You hide parts of your life from your family or community.
You want to belong and still go your own way.
The phrase that is not how we do things accompanies many of your decisions.

Questions for you

There are no right answers. Take the question that stays with you.

Which traditions do you yourself value?
Where do you want to decide differently, and what is at stake for you?
Who around you could understand your view?
How could you go your own way without losing all your connections?

Where coaching can help

Coaching can help you clarify which traditions matter to you and where you want to decide differently, and how to stand by that with family and community.

When other help fits better

If expectations turn into coercion, threats or violence, contact a counselling service or, in an emergency, the police.

If it is too much right now

Coaching is not psychotherapy and not a crisis service. If you are in danger or thinking about harming yourself, contact the emergency services where you are right away, or a crisis service near you.

Want to talk it through?

In a free 20-minute intro call we look at whether coaching is the right way to work on this for you. If it is not, I will tell you so.

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