Communicating with parents: getting out of old patterns

When talks with your parents always end the same way: signs, questions to reflect on, and how coaching works on real conversations.

Family and the people around you

Conversations with your parents always go the same way: one sentence and you are back in the old argument. Or you would rather say nothing at all.

How it can show up

You know beforehand how the conversation will end.
You talk to one parent about the other rather than to them.
After family visits you are tense for days.
Your parents hear important news from other people.

Questions for you

There are no right answers. Take the question that stays with you.

What would you like your parents to have understood after a good conversation?
Which of their sentences unsettles you fastest, and why?
Was there a conversation that went better? What was different?
What could you say first next time?

Where coaching can help

In coaching we look at concrete conversations: where does it tip, what do you actually want to achieve, and how could you start differently? We practise phrasing that sounds natural to you and in your family.

When other help fits better

If conversations regularly end in insults, threats or violence, your safety comes first. A counselling service can help you plan the next steps.

If it is too much right now

Coaching is not psychotherapy and not a crisis service. If you are in danger or thinking about harming yourself, contact the emergency services where you are right away, or a crisis service near you.

Want to talk it through?

In a free 20-minute intro call we look at whether coaching is the right way to work on this for you. If it is not, I will tell you so.

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