Comparing yourself online: when everyone seems happier
Online, everyone looks more successful and happier, and you feel worse? How online comparison affects you, questions to reflect on and where coaching helps.
Online, everyone looks more successful, more attractive and happier. You know these are selected snapshots and still feel worse.
How it can show up
- After scrolling you feel less successful or attractive.
- You compare your life with other people's best moments.
- Other people's successes create pressure rather than joy.
- You post less because your life can't keep up.
Questions for you
There are no right answers. Take the question that stays with you.
- Which accounts do you follow that leave you feeling worse?
- What do you really know about the lives of the people you compare yourself with?
- What matters to you in your life that cannot be seen online?
- Which accounts would do you good instead of putting you under pressure?
Where coaching can help
Coaching can help you clarify your own goals and standards and decide more consciously what you take in.
When other help fits better
If the comparing comes with eating problems, strong self-loathing or low mood, talk to a doctor or a licensed psychotherapist.
If it is too much right now
Coaching is not psychotherapy and not a crisis service. If you are in danger or thinking about harming yourself, contact the emergency services where you are right away, or a crisis service near you.
Want to talk it through?
In a free 20-minute intro call we look at whether coaching is the right way to work on this for you. If it is not, I will tell you so.
Read more on this site
Related topics
This page describes experiences many people share. It is not a diagnosis and does not replace advice from a doctor or psychotherapist.