Emotional dependence: when you can't let go of someone

You can't break away from someone even though it harms you? How emotional dependence can show up, and why psychotherapy should come first here.

Love and relationships

You can't break away from one person, even if the relationship harms you or is already over. Your thoughts, feelings and decisions circle around them.

How it can show up

You think about this one person almost all the time.
You keep going back even though it makes you feel bad.
Other people and interests fade into the background.
Without contact you feel restless and lost.

Questions for you

There are no right answers. Take the question that stays with you.

What does this person give you that you don't find elsewhere?
What is this attachment costing you right now?
Who in your life would be glad to hear more from you again?
What keeps you from talking to a professional about it?

When other help fits better

A licensed psychotherapist is the right person to see if you notice you can't break free on your own. In cases of control, threats or violence, services against violence can help.

What coaching can do

Coaching is not the right first step here. Later it can help you build your own goals and a daily life that does not depend on one person.

If it is too much right now

Coaching is not psychotherapy and not a crisis service. If you are in danger or thinking about harming yourself, contact the emergency services where you are right away, or a crisis service near you.