Lonely among people: when no one really sees you

Rarely alone and still lonely? How loneliness among people shows up, questions to reflect on and where coaching can help.

What goes on inside

You are rarely alone and still don't feel seen. Conversations stay on the surface, and what really occupies you, you share with no one.

How it can show up

You are with people and still feel alone.
Conversations revolve around everyday things, rarely around what moves you.
After meeting people you feel emptier rather than connected.
There is no one you would call in the middle of the night.

Questions for you

There are no right answers. Take the question that stays with you.

With whom did you last feel truly connected?
What would you like to share but keep to yourself?
What do you fear if you show others more of yourself?
Which person could you meet more honestly this week?

Where coaching can help

Coaching can help you work out what kind of closeness you are missing and practise ways of showing more of yourself to others.

When other help fits better

If the loneliness lasts a long time and comes with hopelessness or withdrawal, talk to a doctor or a licensed psychotherapist.

If it is too much right now

Coaching is not psychotherapy and not a crisis service. If you are in danger or thinking about harming yourself, contact the emergency services where you are right away, or a crisis service near you.

Want to talk it through?

In a free 20-minute intro call we look at whether coaching is the right way to work on this for you. If it is not, I will tell you so.

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