Coaching on Identity, Family and Expectations Between Cultures
Between where you come from and your life in Germany, between your family's expectations and your own goals: coaching for decisions that are truly yours.
Identity & family
Coaching between your roots, your family and your own path
You don't have to choose between two worlds. In coaching you clarify what matters to you, which path you want to take and how to talk about it with the people close to you.
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Free 20-minute intro call
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Does this sound familiar?
My family expects something different from me than what I want.
Here I'm seen as a foreigner, and my family says I've changed too much.
I don't want to disappoint my parents, but I also want my own life.
My children are growing up differently from me, and we understand each other less and less.
I'm no longer sure which values are really mine.
When big decisions are made, everyone has a say except me.
I don't judge your background, your religion or your family, and I won't tell you how to live. In these questions there is no single right life for everyone. There is your decision, and you can make it more consciously once you see more clearly what you want and what matters to you. You can speak openly here, in German, English or Arabic.
What we work on
Values and identity
What did you bring with you, what have you found here, and which of it is really yours?
Family expectations
How to tell expectations about work, marriage or your path in life apart from your own wishes, and how to stand by your decision.
Between generations
For parents and for adult children: how to talk to each other when you grew up in very different worlds.
Roles
Which roles you carry, as a daughter or son, mother or father, partner, and which of them you want to continue in the same way.
Belonging
What helps you feel at home in Germany without giving up where you come from.
Your own decisions
How to make a decision you can stand behind, even if not everyone agrees.
For a personal concern you can start with a single session (60 minutes, €69). If you want to work on a new direction over a period of time, support over three or five sessions fits better. All prices are on the overview page. All prices are final prices. As a small business under § 19 (1) of the German VAT Act (UStG), I do not charge VAT.
Where coaching reaches its limits
Coaching is not family therapy and not psychotherapy. If you are facing pressure that threatens you, for example violence or a marriage against your will, coaching is not the right setting. The "Violence against Women" helpline is free, open around the clock and available in many languages: 116 016. In acute danger, call 110. For emotional crises, the TelefonSeelsorge helpline is on 0800 111 0 111.
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Frequently asked questions
Can I talk openly about my family here without being judged?
Yes. What you share is treated as confidential in principle, within the limits set by law, and I judge neither your family, nor your culture, nor your religion. It is about what you want and how to get there.
Will you advise me to break away from my family?
No. I don't set the direction. Some people find a path that fits well with their family, others decide differently. Both are your decision.
Is the coaching also for parents?
Yes. If your children are growing up differently in Germany than you did and you understand each other less, we can work on how to start talking to each other again.
Is this family therapy?
No. The coaching is a one-to-one conversation with you, about your goals and decisions. For family therapy there are family counselling centres and psychotherapy practices.
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Many concerns are connected. If another topic matters to you as well, you will find it here.
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How the coaching works, what it costs and which languages it is offered in.
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You can speak openly here
In the free intro call you tell me what is on your mind, and we look together at whether coaching can help.